A GUY'S GUT REACTION: You know there's free porn online, right?
WHY IT'S NOT THAT SEXY: These days, the average guy has spent most of his life immersed in what's become a highly sexualized culture. From hardcore porn to the lingerie ad at the bus stop, we're constantly being hit over the head with sex. The effect is that it's dulled our senses. We don't want to read a bedtime story—we want to engage in the story ourselves. But talking dirty to each other? That's a win.
So here's the thing: Guys don't require fancy moves or costumes to get turned on. We're simple creatures with simple needs. We like gestures that show us you care, and we like it when a girl has a vibrant life outside the relationship. When I met my wife, I thought it was sexy that she would stay out till 4 a.m. drinking bourbon at a dive bar. My friend Afshin, 24, says, "One time a girl woke me up with a massage, and it was awesome." Chad, 27, says, "I love how my girlfriend keeps my favorite snacks at her place." Now that's hot.
WHY IT'S NOT THAT SEXY: These days, the average guy has spent most of his life immersed in what's become a highly sexualized culture. From hardcore porn to the lingerie ad at the bus stop, we're constantly being hit over the head with sex. The effect is that it's dulled our senses. We don't want to read a bedtime story—we want to engage in the story ourselves. But talking dirty to each other? That's a win.
So here's the thing: Guys don't require fancy moves or costumes to get turned on. We're simple creatures with simple needs. We like gestures that show us you care, and we like it when a girl has a vibrant life outside the relationship. When I met my wife, I thought it was sexy that she would stay out till 4 a.m. drinking bourbon at a dive bar. My friend Afshin, 24, says, "One time a girl woke me up with a massage, and it was awesome." Chad, 27, says, "I love how my girlfriend keeps my favorite snacks at her place." Now that's hot.
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